Susan Ortolano, M.A., CMRC, PCC
Intuitive Life & Relationship Coach

Posts Tagged ‘cure’

Here’s the Cure!!

tn_Yellow flowersI really appreciate the love and support of friends, family, and people with good intentions. It means a lot when people reach out and I know when they do, they are just trying to be helpful.

There have been many times, when sharing about my health situation, when people suddenly claim to have the cure. They tell me if I try X, I will be healed; if I try Y or Z, I will be cured in no time. One well-intentioned friend said that if I didn’t try ABC, I would never be well as it was the only path to physical wellness.

 Thanks for the buzz kill, Dude!!

I have been blessed to have (after an initial 22 doctors) a team of 3 that I know, love, and trust. What I like most about each one is that they consult with me as a partner in my own medical care. They trust that I have some sense of my own process and ask me my feedback when we consider treatment protocols. Once we choose a particular protocol we give it some time to work in my system so we can carefully evaluate its effectiveness.

I know there are some great protocols, medications, supplements, and treatments out there and I have surely tried and spent money on many. I have learned to better trust my partnerships with my team to bring forth what is right for my system. If I hear an option that sounds interesting, I will bring the idea to my doctors and get their feedback. We then decide whether or not to move forward and try it.

Some if these well-meaning folks may have seen great results with their miracle treatments, but not all treatments work for every body and it is important to carefully evaluate each suggestion. Some people are so insistent that I try this or that and that I listen to them and then I will be cured. I appreciate the suggestions, people, but please take a step back. I have done research on the internet, have spent many years reading about all sorts of options, and while I may not be the brightest bulb, I am not the village idiot either.

 I had a couple of people tell me that if I would just take more walks, I would be just fine. I don’t recall any of them having M.D. after their name!

 What is really helpful for those folks who want to make a suggestion to someone who has an illness is:

 Ask what they have tried and are currently trying

 Ask if they are open to hearing about a treatment option


If the person says yes, then feel free to share, if they say no, let them know that you have some information if they become interested.

 The key issue I had to learn was finding a balance between being open to hearing about new options and trusting my own instincts and my team of medical people. I never want to shut out any possibilities, but am not going to blindly try everything either.

 For those who want to reach out to loved ones with chronic illness and help, there is one question that is always appreciated. That question is:

 What can I do to support you?

 That question means a lot! Then the information can be shared and those who wish to help will know exactly what their loved one wants and needs.

 For more information about supporting those with chronic and life-changing illness, check out my resource page for friends and families: